The world has had many evil leaders in history. Of recent memory of course, was Hitler but they exist all over the world in all times. One of the techniques that they use which is also used by some health guru’s is that they blame someone else for you. This is one of the most effective ways to gain control over you. Someone comes along and say, “It’s not your fault, it’s x,y,z’s fault.”
Comparing health guru’s to Hitler is excessive, I am merely pointing out a technique that people use to control you. When your friendly smiling health guru, tells you that it is not your fault, that you don’t have control, that forces more powerful than you have led you to where you are, know that you are being acted upon by someone that does not have your best interests in mind.
This is not to say that there aren’t things out of our control, there certainly are but when someone comes along and blames for you, tells you how miserable it is, and then asks for your support or offers a solution, recognize this controlling technique.
So what is the alternative? Might I offer a radical piece of advice to try on for the next month. I learned it from Brian Tracy, whenever something goes wrong, claim responsibility for it. In your mind say, “I am responsible, I am responsible.” At the very least you start to become responsible for your reaction to what is happening and eventually you start to believe, rightly so, that you do have more control over your life and health than you ever thought possible.
And what about health guru’s who blame for you and then sell you something? Find someone another teacher. How do you know they are for real? Well, they will tell you like it is, which is often tough to handle at first but is what is known as the “The Long Shorter Way.” In other words, it may seem like the hard work starts right away, it might not be pleasant, but you end up getting where you want much faster and in a place where you become your own authority. Good luck finding those teachers, they are few and far between.
My own teacher of blessed memory, Gerald Epstein, MD who since his passing recently, has been on my mind and in many of my posts, would tell it to you straight, his allegiance was to the Truth and the Truth can be a bitter pill to swallow sometimes but as I said for the student it seems longer in the beginning but is ultimately shorter way. I will leave you with a little parable from Talmud discussing this, people who blame for you are leading you through a “short and long way” :
Said Rabbi Yehoshua ben Chananiah: “Once a child got the better of me.” “I was traveling, and I met with a child at a crossroads. I asked him, ‘which way to the city?’ and he answered: ‘This way is short and long, and this way is long and short.'”I took the ‘short and long’ way. I soon reached the city but found my approach obstructed by gardens and orchards. So I retraced my steps and said to the child: ‘My son, did you not tell me that this is the short way?’ Answered the child: ‘Did I not tell you that it is also long?'”